Counseling for Couples
to Grow in Love

 
 
 
 
 

Love is Fearlessness
Love is Tenderness
Love is Sharing & Receiving

To Choose Love is to Fearlessly open to the raw Tenderness of your own Heart, and from this place, Sharing and Receiving with another.

 
 
 
 

“Real fearlessness is the product of tenderness. It comes from letting the world tickle your heart, your raw and beautiful heart. You are willing to open up, without resistance or shyness, and face the world. You are willing to share your heart with others.”

CHÖGYAM TRUNGPA

 
 

What is the truth of my love? My capacity to wholeheartedly enter into my life, simply as it is

 
 
 

Love is confrontational. Love challenges our secret smallness, our protective self-poverty. It coaxes us to admit that we are more–much more–than our historic hurts & defense mechanisms would have us believe.

What is Love attempting to show you, ask from you, open in you? What growing is Love inviting you to do, as individuals and as a couple?

Choose Love addresses your relationship with loving and being loved, with your ability to become genuinely available, and with your willingness to let Love guide you into the unknown verdant lands of your own Heart.

 

CHOOSE LOVE IS FOR COUPLES

 
 
 

  • Struggling to grow & deepen in their connection, intimacy, or compatibility

  • Facing a shared life challenge, and desiring to come through it closer & stronger

  • Wanting to experience the relationship more from an open Heart than from an impulse to manage & control (or be managed or controlled)

 

When my wife suggested we try couples counseling, I was resistant. I knew our relationship was struggling with all the normal stressors of life, but I didn't think it was anything we couldn't handle ourselves. As more time went by, I realized we were repeating the same arguments, and that maybe things were slowly getting worse. I relented, and we started seeing Justin twice a month.



Having never done therapy, counseling, coaching, or anything of the sort, I entered into the first session tentatively, not knowing how I would feel about the process. By the end of that first session, I not only felt comfortable opening up and talking with Justin, I was intrigued and excited for the work we were doing.



As a relationship coach and counselor, Justin continuously surprised me by steering our conversations in non-linear, unexpected ways that would inevitably bring us to a place of illumination. By the end of nearly every session I felt like there had been a breakthrough in understanding each other and ourselves.



Justin comes from a place of deep compassion, respect and curiosity. He's gentle and patient, but he also had a way of getting me to step up and show up more than I was used to, and the more I did, the better it felt.

Our journey with Justin lasted for about a year, and I can say, without a doubt, that our relationship is stronger and happier for it. 

Justin opens the door and says, "Hey friend, come on in. It's great in here! Let's look around." And then before you know it, you're looking in new ways at yourself, your partner, your relationship, your life... And you're saying, "Oh yeah, this is good. I can work with this!"

A. T.
Humboldt, CA

 
 
 

FaQs

  • For a deep dive into the Choose Heart approach, see our Method page

  • This is completely dependent upon you and the various concerns you have. Generally, I meet with my clients for at least a few months, anywhere from two to eight times each month.

  • Well, if you are already on this website and asking this question, chances are you could stand to benefit in some way from taking a next step.

    With that said, there is no automatic way to determine exactly what kind of support you would most benefit from.

    This is why I always recommend starting with the consultation session, offered at no cost and with no obligation to continue.

  • The rate for session time is $200/hour.

    Any additional service time, such as phone calls beyond 15 minutes, is calculated on the basic $200/hour rate.

    Choose Heart maintains a temporary Financial Assistance option for those in significant financial hardship.

  • Choose Heart does not participate in any HMO/managed care insurance panels.

    However, if you use a PPO insurance plan, EAP, or HSA, we can provide you with monthly invoices for you to submit to your insurance provider for partial or full reimbursement.

    FSA and HSA accounts can also be accepted through our Square payment portal.

    Finally, we maintain a temporary Financial Assistance option for those in significant financial hardship.